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18 April 2007 @ 06:52 pm
I threw a fuss again  
I threw a big fuss again because Mr. Bear is out having dinner with a "girl friend" tonight.   It drives me absolutely mad when he uses the expression,  "Oh, by the way, I'm taking so-and-so out to dinner on Thursday so I won't be able to see you."  And if I phone him sometimes during the midst of it, there's his quiet voice on the other end, "Oh hi, sweetie..  I don't have time to talk rightnow.  I'm with so-and-so rightnow and she says 'hi'.  I will call you later?"

Argh!!

But a relationship is a relationship, and yes, people within the relationship must abide to certain set of rules, rules that the people in the relationship create!   Therefore, I promptly laid these rules out in front of Mr. Bear before he left the door:

1- No intimate contact of any kind, and this includes hugging! 
2- Must report back to me before 9:30pm!!


"Understood?" 

"Yes, maaam."  He shook his head with a sigh.  

That poor boy.  

Some friends said to me, "What?  You let your boyfriend do this, and that, without getting mad at him?  How do you do it?"  Well, I think I do cut him some slack compared to a lot of other girlfriends.   He has a reason to be extremely thankful about that. =T

Perhaps I do feel secure enough in our relationship that it's okay for him to do certain things.   A relationship is built on trust and I think we are working towards it.  

Blah.  You're going to laught at me, now, aren't you?   I felt like I've made a lame speech or something.

AH WELL!

I'm gonna go and play some Harvest Moon and woo the girl of my dreams!   That game is addicting. O_O
 
 
Mood: exanimateexanimate
 
 
 
flojack on April 19th, 2007 06:22 am (UTC)
No, I think it's actually admirable that you're working towards it. I see more girls get mad at her boyfriend without doing anything useful in particular, but you have to courage to come up with the rules! I think you're actually communicating and letting him know your actual feeling, that's good.

I'm actually questioning this other girl, I don't think it's in anyway acceptable for someone to have a "dinner" with someone else's boyfriend. Unless she's your mutual friend or something, even with that, I'd still find it difficult.
flying_young on April 19th, 2007 08:51 am (UTC)
Thank you for the kind words, Felicia.. But I really do think it's okay for couples to create rules for each other (as long as they are not too harsh!), to show that you do respect the other person very much!

You do think it's unacceptable, too, huh???? I know!! I told him to go ask any random person, whether it is normal for a girlfriend to feel jealous when her boyfriend is having dinner alone with another girl! (and he's picking her up, paying for dinner and driving her home, too!!) And he kept on saying how he can't see anything wrong with that. Oh my god!!! (*pounds on keyboard) The thing is, he's really outgoing and has a lot of friends, both male and female. And a lot of them he kept from highschool, and he just like hanging out with them once in a while and talk. He asked if I wanted to come along, but I've been and it's really boring (and I feel like a third-wheel because I have no idea what they are talking about.. @__@) so, yeah.. no worries.. hehe